Stop asking what you should try. Ask what you should become.
So much of modern life is built around trying. Try this habit. Try this diet. Try this career path. Try this productivity hack. The question of “What should I try?” keeps us endlessly busy, but often leaves us shallow. Because trying is about sampling. Becoming is about transforming. Stop asking what you should try. Ask what you should become.
Trying is safe. You can try something without commitment, without deep change. You can test it for a while, then put it back down. But becoming demands depth. It asks you to integrate, to embody, to shape your life around what matters most. Trying gives you variety. Becoming gives you identity.
Think of a seed. It does not “try” to grow roots for a week and then test out leaves the next. It becomes a tree. The becoming is not instant, but it is steady, committed, irreversible. In the same way, your life takes shape not through the many things you sample, but through what you ultimately choose to embody.
A practical example can be found in someone learning leadership. To “try” leadership might mean reading a book, attending a seminar, or practicing a few techniques. Useful, but surface-level. To “become” a leader means shaping your character, owning responsibility, learning to carry vision, and practicing presence day after day until leadership is no longer what you do but who you are.
The metaphor of sculpture captures this truth. A sculptor does not “try” different pieces of marble, tapping one, scratching another, and then moving on. They choose their block and begin carving. With each cut, something deeper emerges. The raw stone becomes form, and form becomes art. Your life is the same. If you keep asking what to try, you will remain at the surface, scattered across unfinished pieces. But when you ask what to become, you choose your stone and begin the slow, sacred work of shaping yourself into something lasting.
This shift is uncomfortable because becoming means letting go of alternatives. To become something is to say no to everything else. But that narrowing is what gives life power. Water that is scattered across a field evaporates quickly. Water that flows into a river carves valleys, shapes landscapes, and reaches the sea.
So pause and ask yourself, what am I becoming? Not what am I sampling, not what am I testing, but what am I embodying? Each day is sculpting you into something. Every choice is a cut in the stone. Every habit is another brushstroke. Whether consciously or not, you are becoming. The only question is whether it is by default or by design.
When you stop chasing what to try and start asking what to become, your life gains clarity. The endless noise of options quiets down. You begin to move with direction instead of distraction. And in time, you discover that true fulfillment does not come from the variety of things you tasted, but from the depth of who you allowed yourself to be.
Become, and you will live with substance. Try, and you may only skim the surface. Life is too short to be a sampler plate. It is meant to be a masterpiece.
Chief Editor
Tal Gur is an impact-driven creator at heart. After trading his daily grind for a life of his own design, he spent a decade pursuing 100 life goals around the globe. Tal's journey and recent book, The Art of Fully Living, inspired him to found Elevate Society.
