Replacing identity

Hitting a wall.

Often, when I try to make big changes in my life, I find myself constantly "hitting the wall"- that point in the journey when you feel you can't go on any longer.

And each time it's usually for the same reason:
I'm not willing to give up on my identity.

Here's the thing. Our brain is wired to behave in ways that are consistent with our identity - with how we see ourselves.

When I went to study in Australia, for example, I didn’t feel very Australian.
I was speaking Hebrew with my roommates and haunting the same few humdrum university hangouts, always within the narrow world of other foreign students.

No matter how many times I tried to immerse myself in the culture, I always hit the wall so to speak.

My identity held me back - I saw myself as as a foreign student.

It was only when I decided to jump into the deep end, give up on my foreign student identity, and be Australian in every real sense, that I was able to transform.

Now, looking into the future, I'm wondering what identity shifts will I need to make for my big dreams.

Who do I need to become?
what do I need to believe about myself?
What behaviors do I need to let go of?

Identity. It may be the only thing standing between us and our dreams. .


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