33 Quotes by Albert Ellis
Albert Ellis was a psychologist who is best known for developing rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT), a form of cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) that emphasizes the role of irrational beliefs in emotional distress. Ellis believed that individuals could learn to identify and challenge their irrational beliefs, and that this would lead to more adaptive and rational thinking and behavior. His work has had a profound impact on the field of psychology and has influenced many other forms of therapy. (Bio)
Albert Ellis Quotes
The art of love is largely the art of persistence. (Meaning)
The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny. (Meaning)
People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.
There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.
You have considerable power to construct self-helping thoughts, feelings and actions as well as to construct self-defeating behaviors. You have the ability, if you use it, to choose healthy instead of unhealthy thinking, feeling and acting.
You mainly feel the way you think.
Reality is not so much what happens to us; rather, it is how we think about those events that create the reality we experience. In a very real sense, this means that we each create the reality in which we live.
The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own.
By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit.
If human emotions largely result from thinking, then one may appreciably control one's feelings by controlling one's thoughts - or by changing the internalized sentences, or self-talk, with which one largely created the feeling in the first place.
I think the future of psychotherapy and psychology is in the school system. We need to teach every child how to rarely seriously disturb himself or herself and how to overcome disturbance when it occurs.
Stop shoulding on yourself
Neurosis is just a high-class word for whining.
The attitude of unconditional self-acceptance is probably the most important variable in their long-term recovery.
The trouble with most therapy is that it helps you feel better. But you don't get better. You have to back it up with action, action, action.
Religious creeds encourage some of the craziest kinds of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors and favor severe manifestations of neurosis, borderline personality states, and sometimes even psychosis.
To err is human; to forgive people and yourself for poor behavior is to be sensible and realistic.
Even when people act nastily to you, don't condemn them or retaliate.
By not caring too much about what people think, I'm able to think for myself and propagate ideas which are very often unpopular. And I succeed with them because, again, I don't care too much what other people think.
You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.
Failure doesn't have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.
When people change their irrational beliefs to undogmatic flexible preferences, they become less disturbed.
Whatever may be, I am still largely the creator and ruler of my emotional destiny.
Convince yourself that worrying about many situations will make them worse rather than improve them.
In fact most of what we call anxiety is overconcern about what someone thinks of you.
You never truly need what you want. That is the main and thoroughgoing key to serenity.
Strong feelings are fine; it's the overreactions that mess us up.
We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming - or damning.
Worrying about dying will hardly help you live.
You have only to exist as you do and to live your life as best you can.
We'd better work hard on getting rid of that must - Other people must do what I want them to do!" It's what makes people hostile, nasty, mean and combative, and it leads to feuds, wars and genocide. We'd better do something about that.
People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.
Humans can always accept themselves unconditionally.
― Albert Ellis Quotes
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