You may care so much about the person who has hurt you, or be so unable to be angry with him (or with anyone), that you rationalize his hurtful acts by finding some basis in your own actions for his hurtful behavior…

What's the meaning of this quote?

Quote Meaning: This quote highlights the complexity of human emotions and relationships. It suggests that sometimes our strong emotional connection or inability to express anger towards someone who has hurt us may lead us to rationalize their hurtful behavior by finding fault within ourselves. It implies that self-blame or justifying hurtful behavior can be a defense mechanism to protect our emotional attachment or avoid confronting difficult emotions. It conveys the need for self-awareness and healthy emotional boundaries in relationships.

Who said the quote?

The quote "You may care so much about the person who has hurt you, or be so unable to be angry with him (or with anyone), that you rationalize his hurtful acts by finding some basis in your own actions for his hurtful behavior..." was said in the book Unmasking the Face (Summary) by Paul Ekman. Paul Ekman is a psychologist who has conducted extensive research on emotions and nonverbal communication, which he discusses in his book "Emotions Revealed."

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